Making Decisions about your Pregnancy

Deciding which option is right for you

Deciding what to do about an unplanned pregnancy is an important process and can be difficult for some people. This sheet can help review some important questions before you make a decision.

You might want to spend some time thinking about them alone, or discussing them with your partner, parent, or a trusted friend. Some people find that writing things down helps to clarify their thoughts and feelings; you may want to try that as well.

No choice is without obstacles or challenges. If, after answering the questions below and others that might arise, you don't have a clear sense of which decision is right for you, you might want to consult a counsellor, clergyman, parent, or doctor to help you work things through.

Become a parent: continuing your pregnancy and keeping your child

  1. How would this decision affect me, my family, my partner, the child? What role would my partner play? What role would the biological partner play? Could I manage alone? Would my family or friends help?
  2. Where could I go for prenatal and delivery care? Could I support a child myself? Where would I live during and after my pregnancy? Are there others in my life willing to help me? Have I talked with them about it?
  3. How would having a child affect my school and job plans?
  4. Am I healthy? Would I have a healthy child?
  5. Am I emotionally strong enough to take on the responsibility of parenting?
  6. How will I feel about this decision in one year? Five years? What does my religion tell me? What are my own beliefs and values?
  7. If I choose this option, will I be doing it for myself or someone else? If I were to choose the ideal situation for becoming a parent, what would it be?
  8. What are the pros and cons of this decision?

Place your child for adoption

  1. How would this decision affect me, my family, my partner, the child? What role would my family or partner play? What role would the biological partner play? Have I talked with them about it? Are there others in my life willing to help?
  2. Where would I go for prenatal and delivery care? Where would I live during my pregnancy? How would a pregnancy affect my school or job plans?
  3. Am I healthy? Would I have a healthy child?
  4. How would I feel about this decision in one year? Five years?
  5. Do I know my legal rights? The legal rights of adoptive parents and children? Where can I find out?
  6. If I choose this option will I be doing it for myself or someone else?
  7. What are the pros and cons of this decision?

Have an abortion

  1. How would this decision affect me, my family, my partner? What role would my family or partner play? What role would the biological partner play? Have I talked with them about it?
  2. Where would I go for an abortion? What does my religion say? What are my own beliefs and values?
  3. How will I feel in two months? One year? Five years?
  4. If I chose this option, would I be doing it for myself or someone else?
  5. What are the pros and cons of this decision?

If you need more information or help in making your decision you can call:
SEX SENSE Line at 1–800–739–7367 or 604–731–7803 in the lower mainland
Pregnancy Options Referral Service at 1–888–875–3163 or 604–875–3163 in the lower mainland
Visit an Options for Sexual Health clinic in your area

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Revised March 2009